Aggression is necessary
We live in a society that values being calm and collected over being aggressive and violent, and this is a good thing of course, most of the time.
The problem is that we then end up often valuing passivity more than activity. Violence and aggression are necessary elements needed to make decisions, especially difficult ones.
Both are emotions, or reactions, that defend, that draw lines, that say: to here and no further.
Even something as simple as deciding to not keep a lamp your aunt gave you, is an act of aggression. The disregarding, the severing of the ‘lamp’ from your life is violent, but necessary. In order to make decisions, we need to discard the other options, we need to aggressively close doors and narrow our path.
Get skin in the game, face the challenge, and choose.